Kaedah mengatasi ketakutan (phobia)

 Ramai juga dikalangan pasangan kelamin yang tidak berjaya mengadakan hubungan kelamin/seks walaupun sudah bertahun2 kahwin, Yang terlama dalam rekod kita ialah 9 tahun kahwin, suami masih gagal menembusi selaput dara yang masih kekal dan tidak pecah lagi.

 Mengapa situasi begini berlaku?

Biasanya disebabkan olih dua faktor. Pertama ada dikalangan wanita yang selaput daranya terlalu tebal dan saluran faraj sempit dan ini menyukarkan zakar  suami masuk. Faktor kedua, ialah ketakutan atau phobia terhadap hubungan kelamin//seks pada pihak wanita. Timbulnya ketakutan ini munkin sebab cerita2 yang ngeri atau menakutkan dari pengalaman kawan2 wanita yang lain. Munkin juga sebab peristiwa lampau saperti percubaan merogol keatasnya ketika kecil.

Orang melayu mempunyai banyak kepercayaan tentang masalah ini, ada yang percaya telah disihir atau 'dibuat' olih bekas tunangnya atau orang lain yang ingin mengawininya. Samaada ini benar atau tidak ,wallahu aklam. Kaedah mengatasi stress.

Biasanya saya gunakan dua kaedah rawatan untuk mengatasi masalah ini. Disamping mengajar kaedah2 mengatasi phobia dan stress, saya juga buat pembedahan kecil bertujuan untuk meluaskan pintu faraj - iaitu satu pembedahan yang digelar Fenton's operation. Pembedahan ini bolih dilakukan secara day surgery dan biasanya memerlukan tempoh sebulan untuk luka sembuh dan pulih saperti sediakala. Selepas itu saya ajarkan teknik2 hubungan kelamin kepada pasangan suami isteri disamping mengurangkan phobia.



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A phobia is an irrational fear; the symptoms of which may be manageable or be so debilitating that everyday life may be disrupted. An estimated ten percent of people in the UK and slightly more in the USA suffer from phobias of some kind. Sufferers can be helped with alternative health remedies such as homeopathy, aromatherapy and flower remedies.

Common phobias include claustrophobia (fear of enclosed spaces), agoraphobia (fear of open spaces), and acrophobia (fear of heights). A phobia, however, may be related to just about any object, person or situation and may be caused by a subconscious reflex to avoid repeating an unpleasant experience. Symptoms range from a sensation of panic or terror, inability to refocus thoughts, a desire to flee a situation and/or an uncontrollable physical response such as trembling or dizziness.

Homeopathy for phobias

Homeopathy may help phobia sufferers. A qualified homeopath will tailor a treatment to the exact needs of the sufferer. Homeopathic treatments may include:

Argentum Nitricum (Nitrate of silver) may be given for those who have a fear of heights or suffer from general confusion and anxiety.

Phosphorus is usually recommended for those who fear the dark or fear being alone.

Gelsemium is given when one feels week at the knees or has an overwhelming fear of performing in public.

Aconite may be given for those with a fear of death or for those with a mind that is almost paralyzed by fear.

Arnica is recommended for fears relating to or brought on by an accident.

Flower Essences

Flower remedies help to bring about a balance in negative mental states and emotions. Treatments vary depending on the mental state of the individual. Treatments may include:

Mimulus is for fears of things such as being late for work, flying or fear of spiders.

Aspen may be recommended for a fear which has no specific cause - a vague fear or anxiety.

Red Chestnut may help those who fear for another individual's safety or happiness.

Rock Rose is generally given when fears are turning into a terror or panic.

Agrimony is an effective flower remedy for people who are anxious and worry a lot, but tend to hide their feelings by making fun of everything.

Aromatherapy

Essential oils can be useful in the treatment of phobias. They can help to release tension and induce a feeling of calm. Oils can be used in the bath, during massage when combined with a light carrier oil, or in a vaporizer. Some oils to try are bergamot, chamomile, geranium, jasmine, lavender, marjoram, melissa and ylang ylang.